April 19th, 2010
Here’s a video of me talking to a group of people in a coffee shop. Most people dread the idea of starting a conversation in a closed environment like this- but it needn’t be hard… in fact, it’s easy! The trick is to smile – and as soon as you start talking – keep the conversation moving forwards by making statements about what the other person says. I started chatting to a girl who sat down next to me; as we continued our conversation, more people joined! The camera angle changes as the video progresses to give you a better vantage point and let you see what I’m doing. As always, love your comments and thoughts!
Love it! Awesome video mate
great stuff!!! i like how the videos are of you going out there in public and doing live demonstrations. it certainly feels more real and the ideas are more quickly grasped compared to reading plain text.
keep em coming !
( P.S. how do you include humor into conversations? is there a way to inject humor into any topic? it’d be great if there was a video that talks about this! )
love it! The more I’m learning from you mate the better my conversations are getting. I had a fantastic weekend chatting to tons of people and 2 people asked me for my number! Once again the subtitles are a great help. : )
Yeh these videos are awesome. it is exactly like having a coach. its friggin awesome. keep up the good work.
Hi guys thanks for your support and comments.
RE: Brandon, I’ll make some instructional and demo videos shortly about injecting humour into conversation. In fact, I want to dedicate a lot of time on that subject so check back regularly…probably be a few weeks yet.
Thanks for doing these videos Marcus, you are giving some great advice. One of my big problem areas in conversations (I’ll just give one for now, don’t want to overwhelm you) is how to end a conversation.
Most of the time it’s ends with “Well…ok…” and then the person walks away, or I just turn and sneak back into a corner somewhere (I haven’t developed my “That’s a funny story” file yet, it’s still “Well, that pretty much sucked.).
RE: Chad – I’ll dedicate an episode to this as well at some point. The key thing is to stop adding content to the exchange and then give a reason why you’re ending the conversation and making an exit. Shoot me an email if you’d like to discuss more, or check out my free ebook, as chapter 19 is dedicated to this little quirk!
Ah, so very well done.
My cousin recommended this blog and she was totally right keep up the fantastic work!
Excellent stuff all of your videos are really informative, keep up the good work.
I’m pleased I discovered this website, I couldnt locate any info on this subject before. Also run a niche site and if you are ever serious in a little bit of guest writing for me please feel free to let me know, im always look for people to check out my blog page. Please stop by and leave a comment sometime!
what exactly do you say after “is it still raining outside?”? the statement after that? couldn’t quite catch that.
so basically ask a question and then make a statement based on her answer, sounds cool
great website and great videos !!!
Hi Alastor, thanks for your post. I think it was “Oh really? No way, we were promised a summer and we didnt get one!” As long as you are cheery and upbeat you can pretty much say anything about the topic at hand and get a reasonable response. Hope that helps!
great video marcus, really apreciated that you went to the effort of simulating the first bit of the video to help with context. keep it up.
Love it Marcus. Great stuff
I’ve been looking for videos of real life examples for many years now. I am so lucky I clicked on this link on google. Many years of reading and reading did me no good. Just seeing how you execute is very motivational.. Thanks a lot Marcus
Thanks Rog! New videos will be uploaded soon showing more field demonstrations of social skills!
Great stuff. More of this kind of thing please!