March 8th, 2010
Hello and welcome to the very first episode of yourcharmisacoach.com! My name’s Marcus (your host!) and I just wanted to say thanks for checking out the site.
Today we’re going to lay the foundations to your new charismatic self by tackling the fundamental idea of what charisma is, as well as breaking down exactly what you need to do to get it!
So without further a do…
- Attitude
- Spontaeity
- Charm
- Connection
Charisma is often thought of as a compelling attractiveness or charm that certain people seem to possess, causing them to have this kind of magnetism that we can’t quite describe. Until now, no one has ever really broken it down for us or given us a roadmap for becoming more charismatic ourselves. But guess what – you’re in luck because I’ve spent the last ten years of my life doing just that!
And what I’ve found is that in order for you to develop charisma, there are four key components that you need to exemplify…
1. Attitude
By attitude what I really mean is just generally being a really nice, warm person who is always willing to do nice things for other people. Just knowing that I have the power to go up to anyone and really make their day, just gives me a really warm feeling that I cherish.
2. Spontaneity
A shared characteristic among charismatic people is that they are all spontaneous; they seize any opportunity in front of them and they tend to be extroverted. This is something that was a real challenge to me, as growing up I always veered towards being more introverted rather than making an effort to be the life and soul of the party. Being spontaneous is all about taking risks and exploring your personality. As such, spontaneity is going to be a big focus of the site as it really is one of the cornerstones needed to develop charisma.
3. Charm
Being charming is a lot easier than you might think. In my opinion it’s all about forgiving people that might have messed something up, whilst also rewarding them with sincere, warmhearted compliments. Similarly to having a great attitude, being charming is genuinely rewarding, as again it really just makes the days of those around you.
4. Connection
Connecting with people is all about building a bond and rapport with them. Again, this is just putting in that little extra effort in conversation which 99% of people don’t do, and what you’ll find is that by going that extra inch, people really open up out of their shell and communicate with you on a whole other level.
So there you have it, the four fundamental components needed to develop charisma (NB. There is at least 1 more…but i’ll save that for another time..!) I hope you enjoyed this brief introduction, and that you’ve got a taste of what lies ahead! I really want everyone who comes to this blog to see the real, live results, and so I’ve decided that in order to do so, all of these videos are going to be 100% authentic, natural and filmed in one take (hopefully!)
If you’ve got any questions at all about what we covered in the video (or if you just want a chat!), please feel free to contact me using the form on my website, I’d love to hear from you.
I look forward to seeing you on episode two where we’ll take the next step of our journey towards developing charisma 
Marcus
This is awesome! How did you get everyone to go along with it in the elevator?
Looking forward to ep. 2.
Great stuff Marcus!
Haha! Loving the lift scene, and how the minority grumpy people on auto-pilot, at first resist the hi-five but are ultimately overpowered by the collective happier / fun people in the lift, creating a social pressure – to join in and have fun! Haha excellent!
Peace
Marcus this so great! If this is the quality of your first video, by 10 or so you’re going to light the world on fire.
Hello Marcus,
I appreciate the examples of the principles in action. And the uncut reality of the videos is definitely the way to go. Keep it out of the studio and in the street, as far as I’m concerned.
Nicely done.
Amazing, Marcus. I laughed out loud here, when I saw the people in the elevator going along well.
Great video! Greetings from Brazil (I had a practice session with you, last september in London).
Awesome work Marcus! Makes me reminisce… (yeah I had to look that one up)
Howdy Marcus, Loved the video and love reading your articles. Can’t wait for episode 2.
Well done, I love it
Love this website!!! Keep them coming Marcus!
High 5 to you too
. Hey have you ever noticed when you do a High 5 sometimes hands don’t quite sync, 
but when you do a Tri-5 (3 people in ring facing in and everyone raises hands and they do a simultaneous left and right hand High 5 with person next to them) – something magic happens… : ) Hey Marcus will you have one of “those” haircuts for episode 3 
?
Hey Mauricio de que lugar do Brasil vc é?
Eu sou de SP capital FLWW!
Hi Marcus and all, high five to everyone. I’m just loving these videos – so inspirational. Anyway, I’m starting to open up, live my life and feel good about myself. Your stuff works wonders. Thank you.
dont u think this makes ppl see u as some weirdo…
i m quite sure if i was in that elevator,I’d high-five u too but after getting out,I’d be like…”wht a weirdo…who the f— was tht idiot”
@Zaan The point of the exercise is to be happy with other people’s judgments levelled against you. Whenever you step out of the shadows of invisibility, some people will see you as a weirdo and other people will smile and laugh. The key thing is that you act free and not in a cage that society makes for you. You’re going to be judged no matter what you do in life; so you may as well have a grin on your face as you filter out the people who would otherwise bring you down! ^_^