Improving your self esteem is at the core of charisma. Whether you’re striking up a conversation at a party, or in an important meeting, your sense of self esteem (the value you place upon yourself) controls how comfortable (or anxious) you’ll feel in any social situation.

Those with a high self esteem feel that they have little to prove to others -and get no social anxiety. As such, those with a raised esteem feel relaxed when dealing with people, which allows them to enjoy the conversation, indulge in spontaneous wit & charm people with their naturally relaxed aura.

Have you ever felt awkward when starting a new conversation? (I know I have!) Happily, one of my viewers kindly wrote in to ask me for an effective way to overcome social anxiety when talking to new people. I was out in Trafalgar Square, London and decided that it’d be a good place to show you how & why enjoying the conversation is far more important than being focused on the overall impression that you are making. This really helps you to get rid of nervousness and appear confident when dealing with people.

Positive thinking shapes your attitude when dealing with people. When we have a positive mindset, the emotional vibe we project onto others is upbeat, influential and charismatic. Today, today I want to show you how you can be positive LITERALLY all the time! No bull. Think about how much more successful your conversations are when you are beaming with positivity. Keep watching to see how I respond in this completely REAL LIFE scenario where I would have used to blow my lid! It’s going to show you exactly what you can do and say to stay positive no matter what is going on around you.

Here’s a video of me talking to a group of people in a coffee shop. Most people dread the idea of starting a conversation in a closed environment like this- but it needn’t be hard… in fact, it’s easy! The trick is to smile – and as soon as you start talking – keep the conversation moving forwards by making statements about what the other person says. I started chatting to a girl who sat down next to me; as we continued our conversation, more people joined! The camera angle changes as the video progresses to give you a better vantage point and let you see what I’m doing. As always, love your comments and thoughts!

Today i want to share with you a little recording I did back on St. Patrick’s Day. I ended up in a bar and decided that it would be a good place to try out some of the techniques I like to teach, such as conversation skills. Talking to people in bars becomes a lot more easy if you understand that they are there for the same reasons that you are (and that’s not just to get drunk)!

Starting a conversation with a person who you’ve never met can be a daunting prospect. I wanted to show you how I go about it – on a busy London street! This episode contains lots of useful tips to help teach you how to start a conversation that runs as smoothly as possible!

A brief introduction outlining the core concepts of how to develop charisma. Whether you want to give your social skills the edge, become more popular, train your confidence, lose your shyness or boost your conversation skills -this video gives an idea of what lays ahead on my video blog!