Welcome back to another episode of “Your Charisma Coach.” Today we are focusing on a very important aspect of life: your ability to deal with disastrous situations.
Now you may think that when disaster strikes, there is nothing you can do about it. Well there is! You see, the way you handle the little things in life parallels the way you handle the big things.
Think of it like this: You can’t expect to lift a huge dumbbell the day you step into the gym. However if you can work reps with a 2kg weight, you can pick up a 4kg weight and eventually a 6kg weight. Soon you’ll be hitting double figures.
Or what about saving up for a car? If you can’t afford thousands, you can definitely squirrel away £10 or £20 a week. Within a few months you could have enough for that car.
The better you become at dealing with little problems, the better you can deal with medium sized problems. Eventually when the big issues strike, things will seem manageable. You will have trained your mind to acclimate to the strains and stresses of everyday living.
Here’s another big idea for you. Did you know that gratitude is linked to happiness? It is proven that people who are grateful for things are more joyful. When we allow ourselves to appreciate the ups (and the downs) of life, we naturally grow and mature.
So when adversity is present, people who show gratitude for the opportunity to overcome a challenge wind up being more successful and happy in the process.
We face challenges on a daily basis. They can either be a limitation, which sucks us down into a place of suffering, or they can be a wake up call that morphs us into bigger, better people. Everything is a chance to develop – but only if you see it that way!
Quite simply “Life Tax” is the unexpected cost that occurs when you have a lot to be grateful for. You don’t know what or when it occurs but when it does, you need to flip the negative into some positive.
Stuck in a traffic jam? Be grateful you have a car. Late for work? Be grateful you have a job. Argument with your parents? Be grateful you have a family who loves you.
Perhaps losing your wallet teaches you to be more mindful. Or snapping at your girlfriend might show you how to be more patient.
With every negative or adverse situation, ask yourself “what can I be grateful for in this moment?” The chances are you’ll find more than a few things to be thankful for.
So remember that the small challenges are just training for the big problems. You are never given a challenge you cannot overcome. If you accept and embrace the natural highs and lows of Life, you’ll be so much happier.
Just be aware of your mindset, have an attitude of gratitude and go with the flow!